Nina B Therapy
  Relationship Counselling and Sex Therapy

              Darwin, Northern Territory, Australia based Relationship and Sex Therapist    

Sexual dysfunction in Men is common and treatable in most cases. It is important to look at biological as well as psychological issues which may be affecting you. Below are some typical issues for which clients seek assistance:

Pornography use

I'll start with a position statement that "I am not against pornography as a source of entertainment and arousal which can benefit consenting consumers and participants."

The use of the term 'Porn addiction' has been contentious in recent years, however a study done in 2016 showed that viewing porn has a impact on the reward centre of the brain. It lights up the same areas as heroin or alcohol. So while we cannot say porn is addictive because it is not a substance we consume, we can say 'problem porn behaviour' as it results in us acting on our impulses and activating the reward centre. See more .........

Click here to watch a 30 min presentation on: 

"Pornography and its effects on individual's and relationships"

2019 Sexology in Practice Conference . Sunshine Coast

Premature Ejaculation (PE)

Could this be you?
The International society of sexual medicine defines early ejaculation as:
“. . . a male sexual dysfunction characterized by ejaculation which always or nearly always occurs prior to or within about one minute of penetration, and the inability to delay ejaculation on all or nearly all penetrations, and negative personal consequences, such as distress, bother, frustration and/or the avoidance of sexual intimacy."

PE can be experienced as life long, acquired and relational. The most common factor influencing ejaculation is performance anxiety and over sensitivity.
Many men overcome premature ejaculation with experience and an innate ability to relax. The key here is whether or not the issue is causing you distress or issues in your relationship.  Medications such as antidepressants have been known to affect ejaculation. Recent studies have shown some hereditary links in the cases of life long cases.  

Techniques such as the "Stop start method" have been very useful and effective in the past. However, if the technique is not applied correctly it can frustrate those not gaining success. A combination of methods including practical, mental, toys, creams or partner help ensure the best success.

performance anxiety erection problems

Erectile dysfunction (ED)

Could this be you?
The American Psychiatric Association (APA) defines ED as a "persistent lack of erection rigid enough for penetrative intercourse for 6‐12months (could be acquired or life long)."
ED is an arousal phase dysfunction. It is bound to happen at least a few times during a mans lifetime. The reasons for the occurrence of ED are numerous. Physiological factors need to be assessed. Medications affect the ability to get and maintain an erection, most commonly, anti depressants, blood pressure and diabetic medications as well as alcohol, drugs and weight gain. 
The mind is a powerful thing! Your brain plays a role in a your ability to become aroused. Depression, performance anxiety, life changes, stress, relationship problems and lack of sufficient stimulation may be a few reasons. The relationship between a man, his penis and his mind can be negotiated effectively with the right techniques and patience. 

Delayed or Inhibited Ejaculation

Could this be you?

This is a common issue affecting the ability for men to orgasm. This dysfunction is often confusing as the there is the fact the person can gain an erection and continue to perform for a long period time, empered with the frustration of no release or orgasm. This can set up a negative feedback loop for you and cause loss of desire and increased dissatisfaction. Relationships can at time suffer as the non suffering partner feels they must not be attractive or skilled enough to be able to get their lover to orgasm and there can be too much focus on their own satisfaction and orgasm.

                                    Some other male sexual problem

                                    Male Sexual Pain 

                                    Low Desire ( see Couples section)   

                                    Coping with disability or surgery.